My Home. My Rules. My Law. - Front door process
MY HOME. MY RULES. MY LAW. Where boundaries become written terms: the pen, the door, and the line in the sand.
“You have power over your mind — not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.” — Marcus Aurelius
That line became real for me when I stopped wishing the outside world would behave better and started focusing on the one thing I actually control: my response. I can’t control who knocks, what uniform they wear, or what story they arrive with. What I can control is what I consent to, what I engage with, what I put on the record and what action I take.
The linked document is my personal account of how I reclaimed control at my private home, starting at the front door. It isn’t legal advice or theory, but a record of what I put into practice, why I did it, and how it works in real situations.
For years, I treated a knock at the door as an automatic obligation to engage, especially when someone looked or sounded official. Over time, I realised that this habit quietly handed away my authority. The turning point came when I began to see my front door as a border rather than a public access point, and understood that engagement should be based on permission, not assumption.
From that shift in mindset, I developed a simple three-step process: a written Notice of Liability to set clear terms, a Compliance Form to replace verbal pressure with paperwork, and written verification with any organisation a visitor claims to represent. The outcome has been clarity, calm, and control. Doorstep pressure has been removed, interactions have slowed down and become evidence-based, and responsibility has shifted back onto those making the claims. Instead of reacting in the moment, I now decide if, when, and how engagement happens, on my terms.
Disclaimer: The pdf document included here is not legal advice. I’m not advising you to do anything, and I’m not telling you what you “should” do. I’m sharing my story of what I have done personally.